Recognizing sabotaging behaviors is the first step to changing them
“Recognizing sabotaging behaviors is the first step to changing them.”
Over the years, my life has been beset by different kinds of self-sabotaging behaviors. Everything from abandoning lucrative projects because I wasn’t making millions of dollars, to driving good people away because I was uncomfortable with intimacy.
In many cases I couldn’t recognize the underlying reasons for my behaviors. All I could see where the effects on my life. My lack of accomplishment, and the empty void in my relationships with others.
So, recognizing these sabotaging behaviors and the detrimental effects was very important to me. I was very uncomfortable saying, “Okay, I have driven this woman from my life because I wasn’t comfortable with intimacy.” I didn’t want to admit that. So, I would say I had done something else or even blame her.
Which brings me to an important part. Recognizing these behaviors, these shortcomings, and our ways of interacting with the world around us, is not done for blaming purposes but rather to give us a sense of awareness.
To change the outcomes, we must change our behavior. As we change our behaviors, we change our thinking.
That is why we start by looking for the sabotaging behaviors, by looking at the things that we’re doing and then track back to the underlying issues.